My name is Milea Simpson and I am 23 years old. I have always had an enormous passion for psychology and supporting others. I first discovered my passion for psychology when I was 14 years old and began diving into psychology desperate to understand myself. I knew my pain, impulses, and thought behaviors weren't "normal;" That I wasn't just being a reckless and hormonal teen. Little did I know I had Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, as well as an Anxiety Disorder, and Major Depression. This little trio continued to make living feel more like surviving. As I felt my way through the dark, I stumbled across knowledge. Reading and learning more about psychology and discovering how the mind functions helped me learn how to cope and comprehend the reasons for my mental illness. This gave me strength and motivation to keep fighting, everyday, and to keep striving to be the person I know I was capable of being. To this day, I am still reading, researching, and pursuing new knowledge to help me fight and also support people around me that are fighting.
Here is a little more depth about my personal experiences with mental illness. As a child, I experienced multiple different traumatic events before the age of 5. My childhood was filled with the constant violation of boundaries, neglect, sexual abuse, and emotional abuse. I grew up trying to survive by being what everyone else wanted me to be and doing whatever pleased the people around me. I learned to adapt by ignoring my instincts and coming to the conclusion that that people violating my boundaries and being abusive, was love.
When I hit puberty is when all hell broke loose. As I started to mature and come to the realization that what had happened to me was wrong and being forced to see the reality of my situation, and I couldn't handle it. I suffered for years from major depression, flashbacks, extreme anxiety, dissociation, self harm, constant suicidal urges and tendencies, self loathing, having an unhealthy relationship with food, and constantly wanting to cause myself pain and suffering; believing that's all I was meant to feel. I was taken to the mental hospital twice on separate occasions, in my late teens, due to these many struggles. I didn't know how to be healthy or how to thrive or where to even start. I could identify the main causes of my sufferings, but was unsure on how to heal from it all. When I entered my late teens, I knew there had to be some way for me to heal and be able to function normally instead of being haunted every second of everyday. I saw multiple therapists, and some didn't really know how to help me. I was misdiagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder and put on medication. The medication did wonders, but I was frustrated because I didn't just want to numb the symptoms of my trauma, I wanted to get to the root of the problem and heal from it. I wanted to be the version of myself I knew I had the potential to be, but didn't know how to get there.
One day I realized nothing was going to change unless I took the step to really make those changes. I sought out a new therapist but this time I was searching for someone who specialized in the areas I needed desperate help with. I found an amazing therapist who I am still seeing weekly, and she has helped heal me in many ways, through different forms of therapy; the most effective being EMDR therapy. I started to really heal and improve in many areas of my life. I was given a proper diagnosis of CPTSD (complex post traumatic stress disorder) and have learned a lot of ways of how to heal from my trauma mentally and physically.
Today, I work hard to continuously educate myself about mental health and how it effects individuals mentally and physically. There are so many great resources out there from self books to masterclasses on how to manage symptoms or heal from trauma. I have been reading and studying psychology for years and it's improved my life in so many ways. I created this site so that I could share that wisdom and help others increase their self awareness and emotional intelligence.
Your mind is a garden, let's nurture it.
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